The closer it gets to Valentine’s Day, the more people think about ways to make their loved ones feel special. For some, that means buying flowers, giving beautiful gifts, and getting dressed up to go out for an extravagant dinner date. For others, that means putting the kids to bed early for a romantic glass of wine by candlelight in the comforts of your own bed. Either way, this time of year is all about expressing our love for one another through our unique and special “love languages.”
Love languages are the ways you give and receive love, and everyone does it differently. In fact, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, the creator of the five love languages, knowing your love languages is key to understanding how to remain happy in your relationships as well as understanding and establishing your happiness.
Since many are unaware of their love language, it can be hard to make themselves, or others, feel loved. This lack of awareness can lead to issues within our relationships, ultimately harming the very special relationship we form with ourselves, too. Therefore, it’s important to learn your love language so you can feed into healthy interpersonal and intra-personal relationships. Self-love, people – get into it!
If you’d like to learn more about who you are as a lover and what you require from yourself and others to feel fulfilled, I’ve detailed the five love languages below. Share with your friends, share with your significant other and, most of all, educate yourself for your own good!
Below is a list of the five love languages:
Words of Affirmation: This love language entails giving compliments, thanks, and other positive affirmations using a genuine tone. Example: In a genuine tone, tell your wife she looks beautiful today or tell your husband he makes the best omelets. You do this so they clearly hear and understand your love and appreciation for them, not because they need validation.
Quality Time: This entails giving your full attention and finding joy in activities done with a loved one. Example: Setting aside time for you and your significant other to pursue a new hobby, or schedule a weekly date night. These activities require a non-negotiable commitment from both parties.
Physical Tokens of Love: This love language responds best to physical reminders of adoration. Example: Your girlfriend has been reeling about this new coffee shop. So, you surprise her with a latte during her work break. Example: Your boyfriend loves video games and wants to check out the newest release. So, you snag it for him as a surprise. These gifts do not have to be extravagant!
Acts of Service: Acts of service entails doing chores or taking actions that relieve the burden of a significant other. Example: Taking out the trash after your husband had a hard day at work or helping in the kitchen while your wife relaxes in bed for an hour. Those acts are great ways to perform this love language. The trick is to feed the happiness and well-being of your partner.
Physical Touch: This love language involves engaging in forms of physical intimacy. Example: Holding hands as you watch a movie or an unexpected forehead kiss which sets the tone.
After reading through these descriptions, I determined I’m a combination of Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation. Learning this has really brought me in tune with myself and my needs, so much so that I’ve started to recite affirmations to start my day. What love languages do you most identify with? How can you use that information to show yourself a little extra love? Feel free to let me know in the comments! Thanks for reading!
Take good care,