"The most powerful relationship you can ever have is the one that is created with yourself."
Self-care is never selfish. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. Although finding time for yourself in the midst of work, family, school, relationships, friendships, and social life can be difficult, it is imperative that you invest in your health, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Too many people believe that self-care only counts when you're indulging in a day at the spa or spending money on a mani-pedi, but I'm here to tell you that there's no right way to take care of yourself. Self-care is all about feeding your soul. Sometimes, that means taking a walk in the park, dancing like a nut in front of your mirror, finally taking the time to visit that little shop you've been interested in, or turning your alarm off and taking the extra hour of sleep you've been craving. At the end of the day, what's important is your mental health, and establishing a healthy self-care routine is the perfect way to find and maintain happiness.
I've had to keep this in perspective this month since the last thirty days have been nothing short of shitty. I've been swamped with responsibility as we have settled into life without Drew. Because of that, my days are filled with the incessant need to get things done. I spend my time working on Honeydipped Essentials, taking the kids to and from their activities, attending physical therapy for my back injury, preparing for a long overdue oral surgery, handling the mountain of chores that need to get done around the house, and finding time to squeeze in all of the other "life" things that may happen along the way.
Of course, there were times I wanted to give in, call my mom, and cry for hours. However, my secret for staying mentally healthy and strong is my dedication to self-care. No matter what comes my way, I make a conscious effort to relax my mind and do some of my favorite things. Whether that means canceling an appointment, dropping the kids off at my mother-in-law’s for a few hours or waiting until the boys are asleep, I always make sure to treat myself.
This may sound cliché, but I assure you that practicing self-care is a lifesaver, and I want everyone to empower themselves by establishing a solid routine. So, I am going to share some of my favorite ways to free my mind and feed my soul.
Read the Bible/Bible study for 30 minutes: This is one of the most grounding, satisfying moments of my day. Taking the time to cater to my spirituality helps bring to light the most important things in life. Often, when stress takes hold of me, I begin to dwell on negativity. God's Word has a way of washing away the things I cannot control or the situations that bring turmoil into my life.
Exercise: “Working out is fun,” said no sane person, ever! Although I may not enjoy exercise for its physicality, exercise truly provides great liberation for the body. It warms the muscles and joints, relieves tension, and releases hormones that greatly improve my mood and outlook on the day. Plus, once a good routine is established, exercise proves to be a great source of energy!
Have a good cry: That's right, cry it out. There are a lot of emotional hoarders out there who suppress their emotions and end up filled with feelings of anger, sadness, resentment, and disappointment. A great way to avoid being overwhelmed with those negative feelings is to cry! Fun fact: Crying is one of the brain's responses to intense feelings. Therefore, when you feel compelled to cry, it's your mind's way of converting feelings into something tangible so that you can begin to process and heal.
Meditate: I'm no professional, but I do know that meditation largely involves the ability to bring your thought process under complete control through doing something extremely relaxing. For me, that’s turning off the TV, music, computer, and phone and taking a warm bath. For you, meditation may be writing in a journal or practicing some artistic release. Whatever it is, meditation is a great way to remove the static from the mind so that you can see things more clearly and refocus.
Take 20 minutes out of your day to treat yourself to a spa-like experience: People love spas for a reason! They are relaxing and peaceful, and spas provide a sense of mental stability that we are all drawn to. However, booking an appointment is not always the most feasible option due to inconvenience and cost. Try to keep some of your favorite bath products on hand for a spontaneous "spa night" that will help relax your mind, bring you peace, and have you looking and feeling your best. If you’re looking for products to enjoy at home, I encourage you to check out my self-care line dedicated to providing a healthy, natural spa experience in the comfort of your own home.
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Thank you for tuning in this week, and I hope you’ve enjoyed this information about self-care and its importance. If you are feeling overwhelmed, do not hesitate to contact me. I will be more than happy to help create a self-care routine that suits you.